Self Esteem From The Inside Out

50% off 3 months of  Transformative Coaching starting March 1st - March 15th.

Don't wait to transform your life! Contact me for more information.

Also, Watch my New Free Video series on everything from Wonderful Relationships to Eliminating Stress.

Finally, if you want to see me live, I will be speaking at the Albuquerque, Body Mind Spirit Celebration on April 27th, and I will have a booth there all weekend, so come say hi!

------------------------------------------------------------------------

"The Truth Shall Set You Free"

--unknown

Growing up, I always thought I had terrible self-esteem. It seemed like the older I got, the worse it got.  I was terribly shy, and insecure. I was afraid all the time. Afraid to talk to new people, make friends, express myself, and even afraid of talking on the phone.  I attributed this all to low self-esteem and I thought that improving my self-esteem was the answer.  After all, the world was telling me that was the answer, so I spent most of my childhood, and young adulthood attempting to improve and fix my "self".  

At first I decided, well maybe if nobody sees my faults that will help.  So I tried my best to hide from the world  The more I hid, the more insecure I got and this cycle continued for many years. Even the people closest to me didn't know me... because I was hiding even from myself.

When I realized hiding wasn't the answer to my self-esteem problem, I thought I would try to accomplish and succeed my way out of it; of course all the while hiding what I thought were my faults and insecurities.  So I set my mind to excelling at school and sports, and I did a pretty good job. I thought that this had to work... and while I did look pretty appealing to the world, I was as insecure as ever.  

Next I tried fitness.  I thought, well people with really attractive bodies look happy and have lots of friends right? Maybe I should try that.  So I learned all there was to learn about body sculpting and I focused really hard on that for a few years.  My body sure started to look good, and I started to get more attention from the opposite sex; but after years of going to the gym at 4:30am and 100's of protein shakes, I realized I still felt fundamentally broken inside.

Then I discovered the self-help and self-improvement world.  You have no idea how excited I was, because I thought for sure these people would know how to fix me; they are experts after all.  I dove into it with a passion unlike I had ever experienced before. I read 100's of books, took courses, got certified in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and coaching.  I studied past lives, psychic phenomena, meditation, and mind programming.  I devoured everything I could get my hands on.

I was convinced I had found the answer to my problem.  Except, every time I would come up for air from studying and searching, I noticed those old feelings of depression and insecurity, and wishing I was different were all right under the surface.

I then began to hear whispers of this thing called innate mental health. There was this whole group of people that I somehow had never heard of in all my years of self-help, that were speaking about how there was nothing wrong with me.  People like Sydney Banks, George Pransky, Michael Neill, Bill Petit, Roger Mills... all telling me I was never broken, I just thought I was. They said, I have innate mental well-being, I just can't see it for all my thinking.  They spoke about how we only ever experience our thinking, not the world.  And they said my thoughts were subjective, arbitrary, and illusory.  They said my insecure thoughts would always pass and give way to my wellbeing... if I let it.

I had spent so many years convinced that I was broken, that I never bothered to actually check and see. It never occurred to me to question which "self" I was trying to get more esteem for? I was so damn busy trying to fix myself and improve myself, that I never thought even once that maybe I was just fine. And not only was I just fine, but was a spiritual being untouched by the dramas of my life, simply clouded over with thought.

It was then that I think I surrendered.  I let go of trying so hard to improve myself and raise my self-esteem. When I let go, a funny thing happened. I began to actually get glimpses of the wellbeing that these teachers and coaches were telling me about.

And then, a sense of peace and well-being came over me unlike anything that I have ever experienced. I knew instantly that I was home. I knew that this was my true nature.  I saw for myself that, that which I had been searching for was actually my true nature.

I also saw that the me I was trying to improve all those years was nothing more than a shadow of a thought.  Yes my personality was neurotic, and insecure, and troubled, but it was completely made up of thoughts that I had accumulated over the years; and my thoughts were no more real than a dream.

That background of peace and well-being has stuck with me every day since.  Of course I still experience the ups and downs that come with being a thinking creature, but I just don't take them so seriously any more because I know who i really am. I still feel insecure sometimes, but I know it'll always pass without me doing anything about it.  I know that when I think I need more self-esteem, I'm simply caught up in my thinking in the moment. All there is to do is simply see the truth that behind all the thought is a beautiful divinity of which we are all a part of. A spiritual essence if you will that Sydney Banks called Mind.

It's that Namaste Place. My favorite definition of the word Namaste is that: I honor the place in you where the entire universe resides. I honor the place in you of love, of truth, of peace, and of light; and when you are in that place in you, and I am in that place in me, there is only one of us.

When we get a glimpse of the nature of how thought works, and your most essential nature... all notions of self-esteem, and fixing one self, just blow right out the window.  They don't make any more sense than it would make sense to try to fix a shadow that looks like a monster.  When you see the shadow is simply a trick of the light, you will smile, be on your way, and go about enjoying your life.

Wishing you great love and joy,
Coach Ty

P.S.   50% off 3 months of  Transformative Coaching. Sign up between March 1st - March 15th.

Don't wait to transform your life! Contact me for more information.

Also, Watch my New Free Video series on everything from Wonderful Relationships to Eliminating Stress.

Finally, if you want to see me live, I will be speaking at the Albuquerque, Body Mind Spirit Celebration on April 27th, and I will have a booth there all weekend, so come say hi!