On Playing to Play

"A man will be imprisoned in a room with a door that's unlocked and opens inwards as long as it does not occur to him to pull rather than push."

-Ludwig Wittgenstein

As a Transformative Coach, I find it curious that as my clients begin to see the truth of where their experience of life comes from... (The Inside-Out); they often get really confused about what to do with their lives. However, upon further reflection, in a culture that is built on the pursuit of happiness(as it clearly states in the United States Constitution), it makes sense to be a bit confused when you discover that happiness and well-being are your true nature!

Upon seeing this truth, some questions come to mind: Why would you do things you don't want to do when you know you can have a beautiful experience of life right now?  Why would you suffer and sacrifice your way to success when you know that your well-being is your natural state? What do I do with my life when I know that, "there" is not better than "here"; simply different?

These questions begin to point to a completely new paradigm that is, for the first time, based on the truth of the human experience.  The truth being that our entire experience of life is being created moment by moment, through the thoughts flowing in and out of our heads.  As my mentor Michael Neill says, we are in the midst of an Inside-Out Revolution.

This is the great unknown we are dealing with here; and it's worth spending some time exploring it. Don't be too quick to fill in the blanks of these questions with your habitual thinking.  I encourage you to let them be filled in by the infinite intelligence behind life. But just for fun, let's explore one of them together.

As my clients begin to see the truth that we live in a thought created experience, they inevitably begin to ask me a version of the question, 'If having "better" circumstances and more external success can't make me happy , then what do I do with my life?"

The best answer I've come up with so far, is... why not just play to play?!

We've been conditioned to believe that winning at the game of life is really important, and inexorably linked to our happiness and well-being.  But as you come to see the illusory nature of this idea, then playing to play seems to be a much more viable and enjoyable option.

Remember when you were younger, there was always at least one child who was obsessed with winning.  They usually took to things like cheating, dirty play, and poor sportsmanship.  When they won, they gloated and taunted, and then wanted to play again, so they could feel good about themselves some more. When they lost it was an earth shattering affair because they had associated their identity with the outcome. They almost certainly stopped having fun, and overtime, nobody wanted to play with them.

Now, consider most young children, before they have been taught the arbitrary and subjective ideas of winning and losing.  They play for the sheer joy of playing.  Their imagination and creativity run wild.  The games they play evolve and unfold as they play them.  They step boldly into the unknown, somehow knowing that answer to the question "what next?" will always come to them as they forge boldly ahead. They don't care about winning because somewhere deep down they know that winning doesn't really exist outside of their own mind.

If you watch these children, you will also notice that they play full out!  They often play harder and with more freedom and clarity than anybody who is even slightly concerned with a particular outcome.

We were born to play, and create, and live in the divine unfolding of life.  It is our very nature.  Yet somehow we've been taught to either play it safe and move very cautiously through life. Or we play to win, 100% attached to outcomes, completely forgetting that we arbitrarily made up the rules and marked the finish line ourselves.  We forgot that we are the very thing we have been searching for all this time.

As we begin to remember what was forgotten, most of the goals, and achievements, and outcomes you've been striving for simply lose their appeal. We stop playing to win because we know that "winning" is just a different outcome, not a better one.

Ironically, as we begin to play to play, and outcomes mean less and less, the creativity, freedom, and joy that we play with leads to winning more of the time.  You may have also noticed that when you play well with others, winning the game of success is much easier.

In an inside-out world, you can't build a wonderful life out of a bunch of miserable moments and a handful of goals reached.  A wonderful life is the result of a lot of individual moments of beauty, love, connection, joy, and wonder! Fortunately,those moments are the essence of who you are.  When you see that, all that's left to do... is play.

Love and Light,
Tyler

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"When you discover even one spiritual fact, it will transform your life forever."

-Sydney Banks

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Love and Light,

Tyler

Why Would You Let Fear Stop You?

"Feel the fear, throw-up, and do it anyway!" 

-Michael Neill 

I had a conversation the other day with one of my mentors, in which I expressed my frustration that I was continually letting my fears get the better of me. The pattern was, I'd think of something I wanted to do, feel fear, and then not do it... pretty standard human tendency, is it not? Perhaps the only difference for me was that I knew without question the source of my fear was thought and could only ever come from thought, not from the big world outside of my head.

This bamboozled me.  I thought that seeing the truth of fear and it's source would either make the fear go away and I would take action, or I would laugh in the face of it, and then take action.  Neither of which occurred for me.  I knew it was just thought, and still didn't take action.... WHY!?!?  So I did what any reasonable person would do... ask for help.

I called my mentor and the conversation went something like this:

Me: I'm sick and tired of being afraid all of the time, and more importantly letting my fear stop me from doing what I want to do in the world. 

Mentor: What is it you think you would be doing if you weren't afraid?

Me: Well, I'd be calling people I know and offering them my coaching services.

Mentor: What kind of a difference do you think you could make for these people?

Me: After working with me, I'm pretty certain they would have much better relationships, health and well-being, more peace of mind and less stress, more energy, make better decisions, be more creative and successful in business. 

Mentor: It seems to me if you can really transform people's lives in the way you say... then who cares about you and your fears?!   

Me: Hmm, It does seem a little silly when you put it like that... but what about when the fear comes up, because I know it still will... what then? 

Mentor: This may seem like a naive question, but why let fear be the thing that stops you? I mean, I've worked with a lot of people at the top of the entertainment industry, and many of them throw up from fear before they go on stage, and then they go on to deliver award winning performances. Why not just Throw Up and Do It Anyway!? 

Me: (silence) (Insight) Wow, you mean my fear doesn't really have anything to do with taking action?!   

Mentor: Yeah, it seems to me that fear is a thought, and action is action. Sometimes you'll take actions and there will be fear present, and sometimes you take actions and there won't be any fear.  There is no inherent link between the two.

Me: Wow, I think I'm going to go make some calls. 

After this conversation not only did I reach out to a number of people in my contacts list, I also had a couple of really valuable insights that I really want to share with you.

The first and probably most important was that all of this time, I'd been treating my fear very much like a stop sign.  In other words, I thought that whenever I felt fear in my body, that meant stop, don't take action, it could be dangerous.  As opposed to seeing the truth that fear just meant I was thinking fearful thoughts and had absolutely zero to do with what actions I took. I had simply never learned to act in spite of feeling fear in my body... as those entertainers had.

The second insight, was that I had been mixing up this kind of worry fear(not based on actual physical dangers) with an actual awareness of danger.  Most of our fears are just worries that even when manifested would have no impact on our physical well-being.  For instance, even if my fears about calling people came true and I did get yelled at and hung up on... I'd be none the worse for wear.  That is different than an awareness that comes when you are in real physical danger like if you come upon little bear cubs in the forest, or almost step on a rattle snake.

The worry is worthless and not only doesn't protect you, but holds you back and blocks your creativity and clarity of mind.  The awareness of danger is extremely valuable and in my experience is often accompanied by a real clarity and knowing what to do in the moment. Distinguishing between these two "fears" is a worthwhile endeavor.

It will also serve you to realize that the true value I got for myself came from my own insights... not the words of my mentor.  Perhaps you have noticed this in your own life, but those things that have true lasting value pretty much always come from within you in the form of an insight, aha moment, or a light bulb going off in your mind.  So, even as you read these words, don't try too hard to intellectualize what I'm telling you, simply look behind the words to the truth.

It is my sincere intention that these insights I've had will help to facilitate your own insights that will allow you to move forward with your dreams and aspiration.  If you haven't yet had your own insight into fear and the nature of thought, simply look to the unknown, or look where you don't know where to look. (Also stay tuned as I'll be having an upcoming blog about the nature and value of insight.)

As you go the way of life, and have a strong desire to do something but the fear seems so real and overwhelming that you could puke... best case, you notice it's just thought, the feeling goes away and you take action; or, worst case you just throw-up and do it anyway!?

P.S. Just as an aside: You might revel in the power of thought to make you nauseous in the first place... but perhaps that's a conversation for another time ;-)

Have an amazing journey

With Love and Light,
Tyler

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We Feel Our Thinking, Not Our Circumstances

"Most men spend their entire lives fishing, never realizing that it wasn't fish they were searching for"

If you've experienced any of my work than you know that I speak about the inside-out nature of the human experience more than anything else.  For some people I talk about it to the point of nauseam, but I assure you, there is a reason. Understanding how the human experience works, and the principles behind it, is the closest thing I've ever found to a magic wand. When people get even a glimpse of the truth, everything transforms, and their experience of life gets more and more wonderful in a very permanent way.

The societal "outside-in" myth is so pervasive, that simply seeing through that myth to the truth, leaves most people transformed forever.  So if you don't have a major AHA moment right away, stay with it, and keep looking in the direction of your mind and your thoughts. You'll know it when you see it, believe me!

Okay, let's get down to business. Possibly the most significant part of this Inside-Out understanding for me, is that we can only ever feel our thinking, not the world. In other words, our emotional, feeling experience of life can only ever come from thought, not our partners, our kids, our jobs, or our bank balances.

Every thought has a corresponding emotion or experience that comes with it.  They are two sides of the same coin, and you can't have one without the other.  Another way of thinking about it is, if we have a scary thought, we'll feel afraid.  If we have a sad thought, we'll feel sadness. If we have a stressful thought, we'll experience stress... and so on.

This is probably the most difficult part for people to grasp; there are no scary, sad, or stressful circumstances.  The world can't makes us feel those feelings.  There are no inherent feelings in the world, they can only ever come from thought.

Now, when I say that, most people say "wait a second, I don't think I really believe there are ZERO scary, sad, or stressful circumstances!" After all we've been taught all of our lives that our lot in life has a huge impact on our quality and experience of life... does it not?  Well, fortunately, we have all been innocently deceived.

It's the blind leading the blind. Our parents didn't see that the source of our experience was thought, therefore, they passed it on to us.  We're all blindly trying to improve our circumstances so that we can have better feelings.  Never actually stopping to consider... maybe that's not how it works.  Maybe it's all being created from the inside-out.

This conversation always makes me think of one of my favorite quotes by Eric From who said "Just because millions of people share the same form of mental pathology, does not make those people sane." In other words, simply because 99% of the world acts as if this is in Outside-In universe, does not mean they are correct. It does however give us a reason for why very few people bother to investigate for themselves; it is just too pervasive of a myth for most people to question; much like the old saying "whoever discovered water, it wasn't fish." However, that pervasiveness is exactly why it is so worth questioning.

Now, while some people will just flat out disagree with me, other people will hear me talk about this principle of only feeling our thinking, and they will nod in agreement.  But what most of them are actually hearing me say is, "I mostly feel my thinking" or "My thoughts have a big influence over my feelings."

That's all well and good, but it's not what I'm saying.  I'm actually suggesting that the world cannot cause us to have any emotional experience.  The source of all of it is thought. 100% of our experience of life is being created through thought.

Another way of looking at it is that, in the absence of scary thought, you will not feel fear... regardless of the circumstances.  Without a sad thought, you will not experience sadness.  Without a stressful thought, you will not experience stress.  It is that simple, and when you truly see it, it is profound.

As it so happens, this is ridiculously significant.  When we don't understand this, we human beings spend 99% of our time trying to have a better or more wonderful experience of life; and our main strategy is trying to get better circumstances.  All the while, we don't see that our experiences and emotions can't come from the world outside of our heads. Most people never see this, they just keep trying their whole lives to get better and better circumstances.

You may have noticed that one of the problems with this is that you can't get better feelings from circumstances, and circumstances are often really difficult to create exactly the way we want them. In other words, not only are our circumstances not the source of our experience, but we also don't have that much control over them.  That's why so many people have the experience of achieving a long time goal that they struggled and sacrificed to accomplish, and they end up saying to themselves "This is it? This is all there is? I don't feel any different. Why was any of that worth it?"

Alright, let's switch gears and look at why this inside-out understanding is so hard to see, because there is a reason, and it's completely innocent.  The reason is that it's so much easier to see the world outside of our heads.  The world in front of our eyes is big and bright, and colorful, and feels solid. Everything going on behind our eyes is not as clear.  If we aren't used to looking in that direction, it seems fuzzy and dark. So it just doesn't occur to most of us to look there, even though that is actually the source of our experience of life.

What happens is that things happen in the world, and then we have a feeling.  Because we see the circumstance much more easily, we naturally associate the feeling with the circumstance. The missing link however, is thought.  It's invisible to us, but it's always there, and we are always feeling it.

Some of my mentors who are practitioners of this work, speak about our lack of seeing as a Trick of the Light.  Consider you see something that looks an awful lot like a monster and so you get scared.  You might try all sorts of strategies to attack the monster, or avoid the monster.  Or you might try to ignore the monster and simply cope with it by drinking, or smoking, or eating.

Now consider that upon closer examination you realize, the monster is simply a shadow of a stuffed teddy bear.  The light was simply projecting around the edges of the bear and creating a shadow image on the wall.  The moment you see this, all of the strategies and coping mechanisms you engaged in before become meaningless.  When you understand the nature of light and shadows, you will know that it would be silly to try to do something to change it; because it's just a shadow.

Well, our feelings, emotions and experience of life are all a shadow of our own thinking. All of those outside-in strategies for trying to change how we feel don't makes sense any more the instant we see that we are only ever feeling our thinking.

Once we begin to actually see that our feeling experience of life is all going on in our heads, it gives us a more useful direction to look in. Because if you think your experience is coming in large part from outside us, then, when we don't like our experience, that's the first place we are going to go to try and change it. And when it doesn't work, we think, "well, I just have to get MORE money, or a BETTER partner, a FULFILLING job, or a BIGGER house." Many people play this game for their entire lives.

When we are looking in the right direction we have an opportunity to see how things really work, and then take that into account.  The truth, in this case, is our most valuable asset. And the first truth to notice is that we feel our thinking not the world!

Tune in to my next article to learn more truths about the Nature of Thought that will set

Wishing You Great Love and Joy,

Coach Ty

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"The Truth Shall Set You Free"

--unknown

Growing up, I always thought I had terrible self-esteem. It seemed like the older I got, the worse it got.  I was terribly shy, and insecure. I was afraid all the time. Afraid to talk to new people, make friends, express myself, and even afraid of talking on the phone.  I attributed this all to low self-esteem and I thought that improving my self-esteem was the answer.  After all, the world was telling me that was the answer, so I spent most of my childhood, and young adulthood attempting to improve and fix my "self".  

At first I decided, well maybe if nobody sees my faults that will help.  So I tried my best to hide from the world  The more I hid, the more insecure I got and this cycle continued for many years. Even the people closest to me didn't know me... because I was hiding even from myself.

When I realized hiding wasn't the answer to my self-esteem problem, I thought I would try to accomplish and succeed my way out of it; of course all the while hiding what I thought were my faults and insecurities.  So I set my mind to excelling at school and sports, and I did a pretty good job. I thought that this had to work... and while I did look pretty appealing to the world, I was as insecure as ever.  

Next I tried fitness.  I thought, well people with really attractive bodies look happy and have lots of friends right? Maybe I should try that.  So I learned all there was to learn about body sculpting and I focused really hard on that for a few years.  My body sure started to look good, and I started to get more attention from the opposite sex; but after years of going to the gym at 4:30am and 100's of protein shakes, I realized I still felt fundamentally broken inside.

Then I discovered the self-help and self-improvement world.  You have no idea how excited I was, because I thought for sure these people would know how to fix me; they are experts after all.  I dove into it with a passion unlike I had ever experienced before. I read 100's of books, took courses, got certified in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and coaching.  I studied past lives, psychic phenomena, meditation, and mind programming.  I devoured everything I could get my hands on.

I was convinced I had found the answer to my problem.  Except, every time I would come up for air from studying and searching, I noticed those old feelings of depression and insecurity, and wishing I was different were all right under the surface.

I then began to hear whispers of this thing called innate mental health. There was this whole group of people that I somehow had never heard of in all my years of self-help, that were speaking about how there was nothing wrong with me.  People like Sydney Banks, George Pransky, Michael Neill, Bill Petit, Roger Mills... all telling me I was never broken, I just thought I was. They said, I have innate mental well-being, I just can't see it for all my thinking.  They spoke about how we only ever experience our thinking, not the world.  And they said my thoughts were subjective, arbitrary, and illusory.  They said my insecure thoughts would always pass and give way to my wellbeing... if I let it.

I had spent so many years convinced that I was broken, that I never bothered to actually check and see. It never occurred to me to question which "self" I was trying to get more esteem for? I was so damn busy trying to fix myself and improve myself, that I never thought even once that maybe I was just fine. And not only was I just fine, but was a spiritual being untouched by the dramas of my life, simply clouded over with thought.

It was then that I think I surrendered.  I let go of trying so hard to improve myself and raise my self-esteem. When I let go, a funny thing happened. I began to actually get glimpses of the wellbeing that these teachers and coaches were telling me about.

And then, a sense of peace and well-being came over me unlike anything that I have ever experienced. I knew instantly that I was home. I knew that this was my true nature.  I saw for myself that, that which I had been searching for was actually my true nature.

I also saw that the me I was trying to improve all those years was nothing more than a shadow of a thought.  Yes my personality was neurotic, and insecure, and troubled, but it was completely made up of thoughts that I had accumulated over the years; and my thoughts were no more real than a dream.

That background of peace and well-being has stuck with me every day since.  Of course I still experience the ups and downs that come with being a thinking creature, but I just don't take them so seriously any more because I know who i really am. I still feel insecure sometimes, but I know it'll always pass without me doing anything about it.  I know that when I think I need more self-esteem, I'm simply caught up in my thinking in the moment. All there is to do is simply see the truth that behind all the thought is a beautiful divinity of which we are all a part of. A spiritual essence if you will that Sydney Banks called Mind.

It's that Namaste Place. My favorite definition of the word Namaste is that: I honor the place in you where the entire universe resides. I honor the place in you of love, of truth, of peace, and of light; and when you are in that place in you, and I am in that place in me, there is only one of us.

When we get a glimpse of the nature of how thought works, and your most essential nature... all notions of self-esteem, and fixing one self, just blow right out the window.  They don't make any more sense than it would make sense to try to fix a shadow that looks like a monster.  When you see the shadow is simply a trick of the light, you will smile, be on your way, and go about enjoying your life.

Wishing you great love and joy,
Coach Ty

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3 Keys To Having A Wonderful Relationship

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Given the spirit of Valentines Day, I thought I would share the best of what I know about having and developing wonderful relationships.

There are a three keys I've found that make all the difference between a consistently wonderful relationship and one that feels like a roller coaster of pain, sorrow, and frustration. You'll find that the difference between these keys and what you will find in most relationship books is that none of what I'm about to tell you is a behavioral prescription. My experience is that prescriptions don't work; understanding how the human experience unfolds is the real trump card... so let's get started.

The first and most important key is to understand where our experience of life comes from, or perhaps more importantly where it doesn't come from.  Our emotional experience is created in our minds.  We have thoughts and then we bring them to life with our consciousness, very much like a movie projector bringing a film strip to life on the big screen.  When we have a thought, we then have an emotion or feeling. This is known as the thought feeling system.

To simplify it right down, when we have a scary thought we feel scared, a sad thought we feel sad, a joyful thought we feel joyful, a loving thought we experience love.  Contrary to popular belief, these emotions are not and can not come from the world outside of our heads.  Our circumstances(i.e. home, job, money, possessions, family, friends) are not the source of our emotional upset nor our love and joy.

When we stop blaming our miserable experiences on the people closest to us, and realize that it is only ever our thinking in the moment that can cause that, then we take the pressure off of the other person to fulfill something in us that they can't possibly achieve.  And the reason they can't achieve it, isn't because they aren't wonderful people, it's because that's not how the system works. 

More simply put, another person's words and actions cannot cause us to feel emotions... only our own personal thinking can do that.  There's what happens, and then there's what we think about what happens.

This simple yet profound understanding allows us to look in a more useful direction.  When it looks like our partners are the source of our pain, then of course it makes sense to try and change them in an attempt to change how we feel.  Or we might numb out by some other coping mechanism like alcohol, or gambling, or shopping, or eating, or sleeping around.

But your emotional state is never to do with them, even though sometimes it really looks like it.  All you have to do is get suspicious enough to think that maybe, just maybe it's not them but your thinking.

 Imagine how wonderful your relationship would be, if you never blamed your partner for your unpleasant emotions because you understood that it had nothing to do with them.  Even if you did blame them, once you saw the truth you would apologize so much more quickly! You wouldn't even take your arguments very seriously, because you know that your perspective is completely subjective and made up by your thoughts.  If you simply wait, a new set of thoughts will be along in a moment.

I've always found it a curious thing that couples wait until they are the most upset to have important conversations.  And then they try and talk it out, not realizing that they are keeping the problem alive through thinking about it.  Now sometimes there are actions worth taking in relationships... but you will always be better served to take those actions from a clear and peaceful state of mind, not from anger and upset.

Now, the second key to having a wonderful relationship is very much related to the first, and that is to understand the source of your happiness and well-being.  You were born happy... it is your very nature.  There is nothing you need to do, be, have, or change in order to be happy.  A quick look into the eyes of a young child, and you will notice that when their physical needs are met, they are pretty darned content; blissed out if you will.  These children have not yet learned to become overly invested in their personal thinking.  That innate well-being is who you really are... minus your miserable thinking.

Your essence of joy, love, and connection is just as alive in you as the day you were born. Most of us have simply gotten really good at covering it up with our thinking.  Consider that we've all got this big beach ball that is our well-being, and we spend our whole lives trying to push it under water with our thoughts(we invest in them, believe them, and ruminate on them)... but the second we relax, and stop taking our thoughts so seriously, that well-being will float right back up to the surface.

Understanding the source of your well-being will transform your relationships.  You will no longer look to others to make you happy.  It's a game changer when you know that the only thing that can ever temporarily cover up your mental well-being is your thinking.  You don't need another person to experience love, and connection.  You are love... and at a deeper spiritual level, you are already connected to everyone.

You stop feeling so needy about love, because you realize that what you think you need, you already have inside you.  It then becomes okay for the two of you to spend time apart because that wonderful feeling you get when you are together, that's who you really are anyway.

You will begin to understand that loneliness isn't a function of people being physically present or not, it's a function of your thinking; am I thinking lonely thoughts or not. If you look very closely you will see that people experience great loneliness in the midst of family and friends, and conversely people experience great love and connection when nobody is around.  It all comes back to understanding that nature of thought, and that the essence of who you are underneath all that personal thinking is love and well-being.

The third and final key to living a wonderful relationship simply builds on the first two... and that is what you think the purpose of being in relationship is.  In other words, what are you trying to get out of your relationship? What are you there for?

You see, people try to get all sorts of things out of relationships, that you simply can't get out of them... like happiness, love, security, and confidence.  Not realizing that all of those things are of the mind and they can only ever be created from the inside-out.

Personally, my favorite reason for being in most relationships is because I enjoy their company.  Now this isn't the right answer, it's just my favorite.  It's so simple when my main reason for being here is I really enjoy their company.  This takes all pressure off of them to try and live up to some standard, or try to give me love, or make me happy.  In my experience, if I truly understand the first two keys, and I simply focus on enjoying my partners company... that relationship get's really wonderful really quick.

Will there still be ups and downs?... you betcha there will!  But when I understand that the reason for that is because my ups and downs come and go as my thinking flows in and out of my mind, then it doesn't have to be a problem.  I know it's not my partners fault.  It's just a temporary mood that will pass as easily as the clouds will give way to a breeze on a summers afternoon.  And when I let that low mood pass, I will return to my natural state of love and connection; and that's the perfect time to re-engage with that person that I love so much.


I wish you every joy and a most wonderful Valentines Day!

Love and Light,
Coach Ty



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